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When you're anchored, you're standing in the "Speaker's Stance." Your weight is evenly distributed between both legs and your toes are slightly flared, giving the appearance of openness. (If your feet are exactly parallel to each other, you actually look awkward and insecure. Just flaring the toes a bit gives the appearance of confident strength.)
Take another look at this photo. She's also standing in the "ballerina" stance. She's "out of balance." Standing slightly sideways in this position reduces a person's credibility substantially, and is one of the greatest power robbers of all time. This stance has been taught especially to women for millennia, but "times they are a'changin'." Thank goodness. With women assuming their rightful place in the boardroom, this decorative pose has got to go!
Here, the person on the left has all his weight on the left hip, while the other leg trails to the side. Soon, that hip will get tired and he'll shift his weight to the right side. This action creates the rocking that we often see in non-skilled speakers. The person on the right is putting his right foot forward, which also will result in a rocking motion.
They're standing with their feet in the same plane, with their heels about 3-5 inches apart (depending on overall body frame), and with their toes slightly flared. If you could see their whole bodies, you'd notice that they look comfortable and balanced, their posture is good and their shoulders are square. When the stance looks good (to someone observing), it also feels most comfortable to the person standing. At Disneyland, where employees often must stand in one place for long periods of time, yet always look confident and approachable, they are taught to stand exactly like this. In Anaheim, California, and Orlando, Florida, this is called the "Disneyland Stance," but we know it as the "Speaker's Stance." All good speakers know to immediately find their balanced "Speaker's Stance" and stick to it.
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